Love

I am not sure if you know this but I am a 22 year old Christian male who is engaged to be wed in  November. Today's post I thought I would write about love, not because I am an expert cause I am engaged and not because I have a lot of thoughts in the area but because I just got home after having a learning curve with my fiancé. I use the phrase learning curve not because I am avoiding the word fight but because it was not a fight. I was upset about things that happened, we weren't arguing or disagreeing at all.

But first let me ramble about love. It is quite a unique concept. Society quite often feeds us the idea that everybody deserves to be loved and that there is somebody out there for everyone if we just keep looking and hanging in there. Every Rom com in history shares the story of someone who finds love in an unexpected way and then stumbles but they always ended up happy in love yet again. I want to disagree with this idea when I sit and contemplate it but it is engrained into our culture and into me that if I am not consciously thinking about it then I do fall into that trap joking with friends about when we are all married and having kids and that we will all find someone one day. Right now in life I think I fall into the basket of believing that love is not an emotion you feel towards one particular  person it is in fact a belief and conscious choice you make toward that person. I can choose my housemates I live with and obviously I am going to choose ones that I get along with well and can hang out with, chat and just do life together. I do not have to do these things but I am going to choose the people based on these qualitites. I find love a little bit the same. It is a choice to consciously put someone else first (or at least to try to) not just a feeling you get when you are attracted towards someone and eventually this turns to love. It is choosing to be the best for them and improve each other and go through the good the bad and the downright ugly together and just work on life together and choose to help each other and suffer together. That is what I believe love is.

Bringing me back to my original story. Love is more then that though as well. Love is crying together and laughing together and just telling each other why you are pissed off with them and talking about it and apologising and realising you screwed up and trying to fix it and even though you want to yell and scream at them about it refraining because deep down htey have hurt you yet you love them and you do not wish to tell them because theyll get upset. Yet you also do have to tell them so they understand what they have done to hurt you. Love is this hurt and coming together to move forward from it. It does not hold a bitter grudge and bring up past incidents to prove points it forgives and leaves those points of learning and tention behind, It brings the people together as they come through the hard times and together they will grow stronger. All these thigns and more are what I believe love is and luckily tonight I got to experience that as I wanted to yell at my fiance and tell her what she did wrong but instead I cried, I cried and cried and told her as I sobbed and she said she was sorry as she understood the pain she had caused. She said she was sorry because she loved me and in that moment, honestly I wish I could forgive her but I couldn't. It took me 10 minutes to cool off and get some emotion out of it. But 10 minutes later when the tears had stopped and the the emotions boiled down I looked at her and all I could do was smile and forgive her cause I LOVE HER and that is what love is. She can hurt me sometimes with her words by accident and occasionally on purpose but 10 minutes later I look at her and want to be angry at her but I can't cause I do love her and love is about moving forward together. And that is what happened tonight.

Quirky Creations

I consider myself to be a little odd and unique (but then again isn't everybody?). I try to harness this uniqueness when I am outside in my shed. It is here that I create things that appeal to me or create things people have requested me to make. I am blessed with a gift of enjoying tinkering around in the shed and using my hands thanks to God. It  bringsme joy and makes me happy blessing others with this gift. Yesterday I had the privilege of delivering my latest creation to a good friend of mine. She was stoked with the outcome which was the best part :)

Battle of the bulge

So here I am sitting down one day when I finally realise I need to lose weight and I need to take it seriously trying to. I grew up active often playing sport 5 days a week at least. But once high school ended sport dropped off and work increased causing me to gain weight. I topped out at 119 KGS which was a big shock when I found out. I have never been a small guy in stature or build and was always told I'd make a good prop in rugby but 119kgs was way too much to weigh.

I recently got engaged to the girl of my dreams who is thin and beautiful and fit! Jealousy central of her but I have 10 months until my wedding. My ain is to reach 100kgs for my wedding on the 21st of November so we will see how that challenge goes. I have no idea what I am doing when it comes to weight loss and will just learn along the way so please feel free to join me and stay in contact throughout 

The Beginning

So...I decided to start a blog. Who would have thought? I sure did not think that I would be sitting here writing on a blog. But why would I start a blog? Why start sharing random things with random people? Why not I say? There is something unique about sharing things with people and finding common ground.

I am not here to solve all of your home storage problems or change the world (ok so that might secretly actually be one of my goals) but I am here to share random thoughts that I have and offer a perspective on life that could be unique or may turn out to be just like yours so please enjoy!